Guy friends

As I sit here watching When Harry Met Sally and pondering my life, I realize that all the answers are right in front of me. The movie discusses the relationships between men and women, sexual and friendly. As the movie starts, when Harry and Sally first meet and drive across country, they discuss how guys and girls cannot be just friends. There is always something else behind the curtain. As they grow and mature they grow to be best friends, at least each other's "go to" person when dealing with relationships. At this point it hits me, they are so right! I have plenty of guy friends to understand how the male mind works, and I have plenty of guy friends to realize that "just friends" is just a cover for one or both parties in the relationship. People have this need to be with someone, whether they believe it or not. However, some relationships are stronger then others. The attraction is there and it is undeniable. I ask myself, what is it that stops us from acting on these feelings if it is a mutual feeling.

The situation I am in is one of true complication. I am becoming great friends with a guy and we both know that there is more there then just a friendship. However, he has a girlfriend. They recently got back together and seem to be happy. Others who know both of them and their relationship don't think it is going to last, but I want to support him and think that he is truly happy. He tells me things that I would love to hear from a guy that can actually act his feelings. This is what makes this friendship so hard. It feels like a relationship with out the relationship. I don't know if it is ok to keep talking to him in this manner and as much as we do but it is too hard to think of letting such a great guy go. We can tell each other things without judgement and our conversations are continuous. He has said that if he wasn't with his current girlfriend, he would be with me. If that is even an option in his head, why is he even with her. I was analyzing (like I always do) the information that he has told me about them and realized his reasons for being with her involve comfort from their history and her understanding him after everything she has learned about him. He hasn't ever said its because he loves her. I don't see it there. I think it is just comfort of a familiar person. I could be wrong because I want what they have, but I am not the only to say some thing about it.

What does it take to get him with out being a home wrecker? I don't want to break them up just so I can have him, but I wouldn't mind if it happened. I want to have him as a friend if I can't have him otherwise, but its hard to lie to myself and be "just friends". Everyone else sees it too, why can't he?