Lately, I have heard people talk about the people you need in your life. I have said many times before, the ones you need in your life are the ones who stick around and show you they need you in theirs. I know how cliche that sounds but it is the honest truth. Im sure we have all been hurt by the ones who leave. It is normal. It is safe to assume it hurt because you left a part of you with that person. Im not only refering to lovers but friends as well. In a life time, we all see friends come and go as we change throughout out lives. Its normal and happens to everyone. As mush as we dont like it, getting hurt from those who leave is the best ways to learn life lessons. Like people say, you never know what you have until it's gone. Look back at those in your life that it has hurt to lose. What did you learn from them? Did it change the way you now live your life? I had a great talk with a co-worker and mentor about my life and the hurt I have had. I know it is not as bad as some but for my life, it changes the way I see others. That is a lesson. During this talk, I brought up a recent boy I was with and how he just stopped talking to me. I brought up the point that it did not hurt that he left. I was numb. I was hurt but only because, I had left a part of me with him and it no longer hurt ti just let it go. I am so used to guys leaving that it did not hurt. Has life become a one man game? Are we all just here for one another's needs then leave? People are hear to teach us lessons. We may never know what purpose some people have in our lives until much later, or may never know. Or we might have been their lives to teach them a lesson. Never take the people in your life for granted.
For example, there has been a guy at work gossiping about me and my best friend and it is making us furious. I have started to have feelings of disgust towards him and being very bitter. If you know me, I am hardly ever a bitter person. I realized, he was the guy who practically got me the job. With this job, I met my best friend and someone else I can share my life story with and know she can relate. If I had never met that guy, I would be in a place of hate and misery. They have helped me through the past few months in ways they will never know or understand. I owe that guy my life at this point. I realized, he was in my life to help me find two saints and he doesnt even know it. He is about to leave the store, probably because he has nothing more to do there. He has helped all he was supposed to and his life journey is moving forwards.
I think people come and go from our lives at the exact right times. We may not think it but, fate has a way of making things work out in the end. The song of my choice right now is "Second Chance" by Shinedown. It talks about leaving the ones you love, can be the best things for you. It has personal meaning, not only because it is exactly what I did, but I have seen so many relationships mended by leaving. There have been parent-child relationships fixed, friendships change for the better, and love can be found.
I'm not saying when the going gets to leave. That defeats the purpose of growth. I want you to take from this: the ones you have, the ones you have lost, and the ones you have yet to change your life. Dont be affraid to get hurt. Taking chances can be the best things for you. No one ever got far in life waiting for the candle to light itself. You have to light the candle to see the beauty around you. Sometimes the flame will burn out but all you have to do is light it back up. You can see so much more with the light in your hand, than with none at all.
Let others know when they have blessed your life. They should know that they have done good in their life. It is a satisfaction that is indescribable. Everyone deserves to know why they were in your life.
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